my fiance found out like the day before i told her (she kept it quiet though so i was still insanely nervous when i told her since i didn't realize she knew). either way, she took it really well and was all for acting out whatever fantasy i have. it really comes down to how much you care for eachother. we are very much in love and the way she sees it it's just another fun thing to do when we're getting busy, lol.